And another thing

Posted in Uncategorized on July 26, 2009 by docrighteous

that chaps the Righteous hide is that Doc Righteous, who really likes to teach, can’t get a raise.

The Uni is building a new football stadium but can’t afford faculty raises.

Uh-huh.

WTF?!

Posted in Uncategorized on July 18, 2009 by docrighteous

Seems there’s a dood goin’ around a certain metropolitan area making intake appointments with female therapists and then exposing himself.

On the phone, he says he has a problem with work stress. When he gets there, he describes using masturbating to relieve his anxiety–and then proceeds to demonstrate his technique.

Eew.

Read My Lips

Posted in Uncategorized on July 11, 2009 by docrighteous
  1. Payment is due at time of service, unless other arrangements have been made in advance.
  2. A minimum of 24 hours is required for cancellations, otherwise full charge will be made.
  3. You are responsible for any fees not covered by insurance.

You all signed an agreement to these three points before we ever sat down to talk for the first time.

I love what a do for a living, but peeps, the operative words here are “for a living.” This is my job. It’s not a hobby. I don’t get paid, I don’t eat. And I do like to eat.

#1. “In advance” does not mean after you sit down for your session, or worse, at the end of your session.

How would you like it if, on payday, your employer announced that he forgot to bring his checkbook? Or asked you to hold the check until Friday/the end of the month/Doomsday? How would you like it if he asked if he could pay you “next time”?

And what would you say if your employer asked you, after telling you he’s not going to pay you, “Is that all right?” What am I supposed to say? It’s not all right. If you called ahead and said, “I can’t pay you this week, Dr. Righteous,” then I’d have a choice. I could, if we have worked together for awhile and I know you’re good for it, tell you to come on in and we’ll worry about payment later. Or I have the opportunity to suggest that we reschedule. But if you ask me that at the beginning of the session, do you really think you are going to get an honest answer? What am I gonna do, say “No, it’s not ok, get out of my office!”? You tell me after we’ve already had our session, what am I supposed to do? Repossess the hour?

#2. If you don’t give me at least 24 hours notice, I haven’t a chance of a snowball in hell of scheduling someone else into that hour. And once again, if I don’t get paid, I don’t eat.

How would you like it if you arrived at work one day to find a “Closed” sign on the door? Same thing. I arrive at work, but you, my employer of the hour, do not.

How would you like it if your boss called while you were in the shower and left you a message saying the business will be closed for an  hour today? A little late for you to make other plans, isn’t it?

Late cancellations are bad, but no-shows are a pain in the ass. I can’t start anything else, because you might be here any minute. If not showing up seems out of character for you, then I spend the time worrying that you’ve had an accident or something. If you are suicidal, then of course I wonder if you are swinging from the rafters at this very moment, and maybe I should be dialing 911 instead of sitting here with my thumb up my ass waiting to see if you are going to show up. And speaking of dialing, I can’t get on the phone (other than to check for a message from you), or even walk away from the phone, in case you are just running late and might be trying to call the office. Do you think I don’t care? I worry about you if you don’t turn up when you are supposed to!

Imagine, if you can, how I feel when I call my answering service 20 minutes into your hour, to find you’ve left a message within the last few minutes to say you can’t afford it today (it’s a $20 copay, for chrissakes, you spent more than that yesterday getting your nails done) or that you overslept, or you forgot, or whatever.

Apparently your personal growth and happiness has become more important to me than it is to you. After all, I’m here and ready to work. What’s wrong with that picture??

#3. I did the work. I need to be paid. So I can eat.

How would you like it if you never knew whether or when or how much you would get paid at your job? Maybe some days you would, some days you wouldn’t. Some days you’d get paid, but only  14.81% of your salary.  That’s exactly what happens to me if your insurance company denies the claim and all I ever collect for that hour is your lousy copay. How would you like that?

How would you like it if, willy-nilly, your employer decided not to pay you for the work you did between, say, two o’clock and three o’clock for the last couple of Wednesdays? A little late to make alternative arrangements to produce income those days, isn’t it?

Take another little piece of my heart now, baby
You know you got it, if it makes you feel good! –Janis Joplin

The worst experience for me though is when you run up a bill and then just stop showing up.  I call. I send a letter. I send a statement every month. You ignore me.

Psychotherapy is a pretty personal experience on my side of the couch, too, toots. When we are working, I give something of myself. So it hurts personally as well as financially when you stiff me for the bill. It feels as if you are giving me the finger. Which of course, in a way, you are.

Analyze that.

But what about the menz?

Posted in Uncategorized with tags on June 27, 2009 by docrighteous

APA is currently writing guidelines for working with boys and men. What’s next? A culturally sensitive guide to psychotherapy with white people?? Grrr!

Choice

Posted in Uncategorized on June 2, 2009 by docrighteous

You can click here to sign the NOW petition.

School Bullying Takes on a Whole New Aspect

Posted in Autism with tags , on May 12, 2009 by docrighteous

Seems this teacher let her class vote out a kid with Asperger’s Syndrome. But it gets worse: When the mother complained, other staff, faculty, and parents began bullying her! The Autistic Bitch From Hell has the whole story over at Whose Planet Is It Anyway?

I have never understood how some of the bullying that my clients endure can go on under the noses of teachers and administrators, but I guess once you realize that some of them are bullies too, then it makes sense.

Math Facts (Not!)

Posted in Uncategorized on May 11, 2009 by docrighteous

There aren’t enough women pursuing careers in higher mathematics: Who knew?

And it’s not because we aren’t good at math (!) or because of our hormones, either. Whew. I was worried about that, and I’ll betcha you were too. But to my relief, and yours, I’m sure, an article in this month’s Monitor on Psychology reassures us that “Choice–not ability–steers women away from math-intensive careers” (Novotney, A., 2009).

Most of the page is taken up with a photograph of an anorexic model wearing a huge necktie and geeky glasses. With geeky hair and bee-stung lips and probably no 12-year molars. She has a stumped expression on her face.

But the text is worse. Yep, A. Novotney tells us, those girls just don’t want to be mathematicians! It would take too much time away from being Mommies! Which we all know is what girls really want, right? Or we “choose” something “more people-oriented” (p. 16).  Not that anybody here is stereotyping girls or anything.

The American Psychological Association is an organization of liberal dudes that really seems to be patting the ladies on the head with this one. Would that it were a radical feminist organization instead: How then might it have interpreted this data? Well, for one thing, we’d probably be looking at different data. We’re told Ceci and colleagues “spent three years reviewing more than 400 articles and book chapters by endocrinologists, economists, psychologists, sociologists and neuroscientists examining sex differences in math and spacial [sic] ability [emphasis added]” (p. 16). A feminist would have spent a third of the time asking all the girls who “take just as many advanced math courses as their male counterparts and often receive higher grades” (p. 16) why they didn’t pursue careers in it if they’re so damned good at it.

And I bet they would find that (a) higher mathematics is a boys’ club that won’t let girls in, and (b) the structure of “the” family in the patriarchy prevents her from pursuing either higher mathematics or any other demanding career. And that’s not a matter of choice. It’s a lack of freedom of choice.

Now if, as Stephen Ceci says in an interview, “The timing of childrearing coincides with the most demanding periods of their careers, such as trying to get tenure or working exorbitant hours to get promoted,” (p. 16) it makes no sense that a girl would choose medicine as an alternative, does it? But that’s exactly what they are suggesting: That we want less demanding jobs. And their solution to this is–wait for it–for employers to “offer more family-friendly options such as part-time opportunities” (p. 16).

Let me clue you in, guys. We don’t want you to dumb it down for us. What we want is the same opportunities a man has. On which subject, let me ask: Why would you not propose “family friendly options” for men, too? What is up with this assumption that woman=family?

So I propose a survey of my own: If, dear reader, you were really, really good at math in high school, why did you not pursue a career in higher mathematics?